Many Black women (including myself) have faced the daily anxiety of walking past enclaves of damaged men getting harrassed. Know that you’re not alone. We DO NOT have to live this way!
I was browsing and noticed a comment from a BM on another site in ref to this video….
“first of all , this is slanted one way, and on that site, there’s like 5 or more links prasing white men (hey, go check it out) I’m not saying that there aren’t any guys OF ANY RACE that don’t holla at women in appropiately, but black women do the same thing.
If a group of girls/women are standing around at work, bars, church, or anywhere else and a man they deem attractive walks by, THEY LOOK TOO…they may not (but atleast one changes their actions) catcall, but they do exaclty what they accuse us of doing.
Is it a problem, yeah, I can say so. Is it a point of emphasis where black men should be more non-abrasive in their approach to a woman, sure, I agree. But let’s talk about how many times a brotha walks up and says ” Hello, I was noticing/I just seen you walk by/..my name is….” and gets COMPLETELY CARRIED AND DISRESPECTED or just plain ole ignored as if he wasn’t even standing there. So the pen goes both ways.
I think everyone needs to again reevaluate what they think a man and a woman is and only deal with those people. This vid is stupid propoganda again against the brothas. Sorry, but callin it like I see it.”
Many BM believe that BW are their property and posts like this make it evident…It doesn’t matter if you make catcalls or approach ‘nicely’…Now hear this: NO ONE IS OBLIGATED TO RESPOND…again…NO ONE IS OBLIGATED TO RESPOND…You are not ‘ENTITLED’ to a response…One more time…IT IS MY CIVIL RIGHT NOT TO ACKNOWLEDGE A STRANGER ON THE STREET!…Ok, clear now?
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Addressing Mr Common Senses Questions (Against My Better Judgement)
On the surface these appear to be reasonable questions…At the risk of being lured in like a wide-mouth bass, I will take the time to answer them….The irony is that the poster “Mr Common Sense” has chosen to pose these questions where the blog entry discusses a clear case of harrassment…Note to all: THIS IS A CRIME!…A crime which all too often escalates when the woman does not comply with the aggressor…Every law-abiding American has the civil right to free movement on a public street…When moving to a more diverse community, imagine my relief when there were no enclaves of damaged men to walk by on a daily basis…Rarely do I have to cross the street, pretend to be on the phone, or increase my pace to get past these factions…Now I still encounter this a couple of times a year when visiting certain neighborhoods…But the locality I reside in makes these places easy to avoid…Not every Black woman is so fortunate…From the moment they leave home, enroute to the bus/train and back again, too many BW have to maintain a hypervigilance…That is no way to live…I don’t want Black women to just be “used to it”…Do not allow contrarians bring up “Superhead” and other immoral women to justify this trend…And if “Superhead” did not exist, they’d blame Mata Hari & Ma Barker…So do not even entertain this line of conversation…Know that your rights are being violated and this behavior is not the norm for society…This blog will not be used as a scapegoat for criminals. Readers, the objective of the following questions is not to defend, uplift or protect…But these questions are designed to revictimize, subjugate and shame the Black women for speaking out…It is clear that no matter what attrocities are commited against us, we should remain silent…
Do you have to hate Black men to love a non-Black man? Of course not…This is a ridiculous straw man question that is totally played out (Please see my YouTube video “Q&A” for further elaboration)…
Is that the sole requirement in deciding to open up your options? No a Black woman can open up her dating options for whatever reasons she chooses. Just as some cannot comprehend that BW are entitled to freedom of movement, we also do not need a nicely-packaged “PC” reason to date out…
Is it possible to just love another man for who he is and not his skin color? I love and interact with those who treat me well, no matter their skin color…I will not overlook mistreatment and other cancer symptoms because me and another party share the same race…
Can you honestly look at every man as an individual and not a collective? In a perfect world every individual should be judged on a case by case basis…However, in this life there are many dangers lurking…While giving a person the “benefit of doubt”, we must also use our “common sense”…History tends to repeat itself…We can use the “Gift of Fear” module to predict future behavior…I encourage people (particularly women) NOT to ignore their instincts…One cannot afford to disregard that inner voice which says something is not right…And when we observe mistreatment by those who fit a certain M.O., “common sense” must also be used when encountering these subjects…And any race of man who accosts women would fit into this category…Let me further play this game and say that if ANY race of male approached me in an isolated location i.e., a car garage, my antennaes would also go up…
Who was really responsible in your last bad relationship? (This is where I am supposed to be typecasted as the “Angry Black Woman”) Either 50/50 or 100/100 …Depending on how one views the situation…More specifically, everyone is responsible for THEIR OWN actions and what THEY ALLOW…This is one of the reasons “Black Women Deserve Better” exists and attracts so many readers…Once you KNOW better there’s no excuse not to DO BETTER…
Are you the gatekeeper to your own personal happiness? (Eyes glazing over) Are these just distracting filler questions? Part of personal accountabilty does not include remaining silent about CRIME…
Are you just a leaf blowing in the wind? WTF??????? Are you on some Elizabeth Barrett Browning nonsense?
Much love and respect to all the beautiful aware black women. (Close on a high note after a round of bashing)
-Respect is not continuously trolling a forum for Black women who wish to expand their options…Sir, if you disagree make your point and bypass…”Mr Common Sense” been commenting on this blog since earlier in the summer…Now ask yourself why is that
-Respect is not dismissing this documentary as something being “blown outta proportion” or “a reason to hate”…The proof is in black and white…Do not try to deceive BW into not believing what seen before their very eyes…You as a MAN should have a protective instinct when seeing this type of harrassment…For instance: When reading or watching a news report abuse of children, animals or the elderly my dander gets riled up. As the stronger and more powerful one, I wanted to take action to defend them. A few years ago, I joined the ASPCA and another program called IFCJ (which takes care of the elderly). The response was not to cast blame, but do what was in my power to help. My employment also reflects this all-too-human characteristic…This is just another case of predator protectionism and it will not fly here. Let me tell you about what is normal behavior when hearing of injustice:
-Warning friends and loved ones about the danger…Taking the time to make sure they are safe
-Donating time/resources to the cause
-Writing an official to get laws changed
-Becoming outraged/offended/fed up with the situation
-Dialogue including blogging and otherwise conversing with others
Again…’Predator Protectionism’ is ABNORMAL
So Mr Common Sense, the respect in your closing amounts to nothing more than complete and utter bull….Please use this as a cue to find a blog more suited to your tastes
Filed under: Black Women | Tagged: black woman walking, black women harrassed, black women harrassed walking, crimes against black women, tracey rose
I can’t remember where I was.. I think I was in the historical African-American part of town. I had to walk by them, and as I approached them, I felt my body tense up and this feeling of reluctance and dread in my stomach. It suddenly hit me that I was scared to walk down the street in a city that I’ve lived in for 6 yrs. I didn’t grow up on the ‘right side of the tracks’ so to speak, so I had to ask myself why I reacted this way… why the sight of a group of black men caused my physical reaction. Its a travesty that African American women can’t feel secure just walking down the street.. that harassment is such an ingrained part of our day.
Its really sad. I’m glad Tracey made this movie, but appalled that a young woman lost her life to dbr foolishness.
Gavin de Becker The Gift of Fear might explain your feelings. It was probably legitimate.
Where did you get the video and is it available for purchase? I want to support her work.
hey there…goto traceyrose.net
i also believe she has a myspace page by the same name…
This is a great video. How do I send a link to my sister. She still believes that BM will lift BW up. She just refuses to get it.
@Sacha
On the blip tv main site there is an option to either embed or send to a friend…And I have a feeling one day your sister will be tired of the same ol merry-go-round…When she sees YOU living the best life possible, a lightbulb will go off : )
I think this is a thought provoking short film. I will blog about this. Because I have a story to tell.
I was assaulted on the street by a black man. He said something depraved about a part of my body. I couldn’t believe what he’d said and I asked him, “what did you say?, That’s disgusting”, I told him. After that he began to beat me up. A white guy walked by and told him to leave me alone. He threatened to hurt the white guy.
Although I was a student and looked very preppy and this black man was a bum I assume most white people (it was near the gold coast in Chicago, a very white area) thought we were together. But I know the black men (they must have been 6′4 or so… they were very tall men) I know they knew I did not know this man. And they laughed at what they saw.
So I have learned never to respond to them. Thankfully now I am usually not ever around these type of people. They don’t live in my neighborhood.
Of course because black boogeymen just run and grab defensiveless good natured women up from the streets.
Everybody run from the evil black men. lol.
Get it together ladies. You do know that this IR movement is loosing steam because of these sentiments. Even black women on the boarder are starting to see this as just a group of angry women.
Black men love you as much as any other man. Stop looking for excuses. You can live your live, and date who you want.
But let’s stop the attacking of your brothers, uncles, nephews, and sons.
@Mr Common Sense
1. There no movement over here….It’s about freedom of choice…The parties who do not exercise this are the ones who lose steam…
2. No excuse…It is what it is
3. Leave fathers, uncles, nephews, sons, male german shepherds, and peacocks out of it…If family members are not conducive to our well being, then I encourage BW to speak out on it…The “lets put blinders on” attitude will not cut it…We can use the same models for murderers, drunk drivers and child predators…Just because EVERYONE in the neighborhood doesn’t commit these crimes is no excuse not to expose the ones who do and seek justice…And a BW being harrassed on the streets, perhaps in the inner-city is a threat to BW everywhere…
I still for the life of me can’t figure out why bm like Mr. Common Sense are on this board are so angry and in general everday life have anything to say AT ALL to bw regarding our attitudes towards interracial dating or BM when BM date out of the race and degrade ALL black women more than the other way around. I guess it’s a controll thing.
Black men love playing the ‘woe is de black man’ thing even when they constantly degrade ALL black women. It’s one of the things I find unappealing about them!
I usually cross the street when I see a group of black males… hell I cross the street if I see ONE black male comming my way.
Say what you want, but a good majority of them dont know how to act, and lawd dont let it be a group of them together. Somebody will end up shot or in the hospital
I appreciate you sharing this video. It brought back some unpleasant memories, but I’m glad that I’m stronger now to handle such situations without falling apart.
More power to our sistas, irrespective of race, colour, class, or creed.
One of the best short documentaries ever made. We need more like this and even some uplifting videos for black women.
@CW
“Just because EVERYONE in the neighborhood doesn’t commit these crimes is no excuse not to expose the ones who do and seek justice.”
I would agree with that statement if your “movement” even acknowledged that it isn’t EVERYONE. But your “movement” paints a blank statement on ALL black men. Period, while at the same time. Blankly paints ALL black women as defenseless victims.
This has been discussed many times.
@Jenny. I have no hatred to Black women at all. Far from it. So questioning does not equate hatred.
I am just questioning the logic of this need to demonize black men.
Again this is America, and a free country. Everyone has the right to choose to do whatever it is they choose too.
I have a couple of very simple questions?
Do you have to hate Black men to love a non-Black man?
Is that the sole requirement in deciding to open up your options?
Is it possible to just love another man for who he is and not his skin color?
Can you honestly look at every man as an individual and not a collective?
Who was really responsible in your last bad relationship?
Are you the gatekeeper to your own personal happiness?
Are you just a leaf blowing in the wind?
Much love and respect to all the beautiful aware black women.
“Do you have to hate Black men to love a non-Black man?”
First I’d like to say that I see more hate coming from bm toward bw than the other way around. Just take a look at the media, crime, etc. But in answer to your question, no. I don’t hate black men as I had a black father, still have brothers, nephews, etc. I should also say that I certainly do not love nonblack men. I find that I am more attracted to nonblack men, but I do NOT and WON’T love them. I love individuals, not groups. I’ll be the first to say that there are plenty of DBR nonblack men.
“Is that the sole requirement in deciding to open up your options?”
See above.
“Is it possible to just love another man for who he is and not his skin color?”
Absolutely! I wish that black women would apply that to nonblack men.
“Can you honestly look at every man as an individual and not a collective?”
Agreed! Not saying that the women here do this, but it is a mistake to put any group of men up on a pedestal. No one is perfect.
“Who was really responsible in your last bad relationship?”
I would not call this a relationship, but the last white guy I considered getting into a relationship with turned out to be a psycho. But again, I won’t let that affect my view of white men as a whole. People are people and we can’t judge a whole by a part.
“Are you the gatekeeper to your own personal happiness?”
Yes.
“Are you just a leaf blowing in the wind?”
No.
“Much love and respect to all the beautiful aware black women.”
Much love to you too.
I am so glad this video is making the rounds. I had seen it on the Model Minority’s blog, and linked it to as many places I could think of. The more people who see this video, the more people would start to realize that this is a too real and extremely scary reality that we Black women have to face on a regular basis—and I speak from experience on this.
Oracle! That was hilarious.
You know, I don’t know that this topic can be easily discussed with black men and I am not terribly concerned about it. Sometimes one only has the time to do what is practical and immediate and it’s really quite practical to have an interracial relation and focus presently. Er body else will just have to catch up.
I recently stopped jogging because my place of exercise was surrounded by black men that would constantly size me up. Shit, I just wanted to jog, but I couldn’t get a few laps around a lake without constantly losing focus because of the anticipation and “dread” concerning men staring and commenting. I remember mentioning this to two men that I worked with and because of projecting their personal feelings onto the situation they felt as though I should be sympathetic and nice. It’s unacceptable behavior and I’m just not in the mood to stroke or massage the ego’s of others. I feel no obligation to “my brothers” when it comes to who I choose to date and how I like to addressed. And my remedy for the IMPLICIT threat that men will often create was to take a really good self-defense class. Now I don’t speak when I don’t want to.
I remember mentioning this to two men that I worked with and because of projecting their personal feelings onto the situation they felt as though I should be sympathetic and nice.
Please read Gavin de Becker’s Gift of Fear. That’s one of the reasons stated of women who were attacked. They had a feeling they shouldn’t be around someone etc. and they thought they should be nice etc. Actually Gabriel Union said this is what happened the night she was raped.
Another thing is ask these bm if they would tell their daughters or mothers to be nice when they feel they are in danger? Or to get into a car and be nice, because someone is offering them a ride. Lets see what they say then.
I just sort of lucked up into the blog; I watched the video, and im reading the comments.
Let me put my two cents in the discussion. As a black male, i do think that this is disturbing and I could be wrong in my assessment and have no problem being corrected but I feel that there is a lot of generalization concerning black men. BW should not have to endure being harassed by black men but truthfully u shouldnt have to endure beign harassed by any male of any color or ethnicity PERIOD. I have 3 sisters and I would want them to keep their guard up in public when it comes to men if ANY race. All BM are not these barbaric animals waiting to assault BW and not all white men are Sir Lancelots/Prince Charmings. Can BM be trifling dogs? U Betcha! How about white men be just as trifling? U Bet. But this negative generalization that Im seeing towards BM has got to stop sistas, and brothers need to to the same thing. Stop generalization and say all black women are these loose sexual whores that u can just speak and call them out their name.
My feelings about interracial relationships is this: Love who u love regardless of color! Sistas in this day and age, its time you start expanding your horizons racially and see what is out there. I mean, if you are just generally more attracted to non-black men so be it everyone is entitled to their preference, but dont just start believing that ALL black men are the enemies bc a whole number believe it or not have black women on top of a pedestral instead of the bottom of the totem pole that society who love u to stay at.
Peace and blessings,
Umoja,
Benjamin
why do bm comment here?
But this negative generalization that Im seeing towards BM has got to stop sistas, and brothers need to to the same thing.–Benjamin
I agree that no one should adhere to biased generalizations. But the women here are likely speaking from experience. I do find your use of the words brother and sista to be quite interesting. I won’t speak for the other women, but the only brothers I have are the two who are blood related. I say this not out of spite, but because there is no such thing as solidarity with black men as far as I am concerned. For example, I don’t think of them as “brothers” or “my black men” as often said by many black women. They are men with a similar racial characteristic…nothing more. Not at all my counterpart. Now some will claim that my feelings are one of bias, but that is very far from the truth. This isn’t about hate, its about asserting my value as a black woman and separating myself from antagonists whether they are white, black men, or even black women. It also means creating friendships with those who respect me and I them. So far, you appear to be fair-minded. Good. But for those black men who are haters, they need to fix themselves before calling anyone else out.
@LorMarie
I debated whether or not to allow Benjamins comment thru…However, most of us can see that this is “forced teaming”…Make one feel guilty for not “Going along to get along”…If we do not subscribe to the forced teaming, then we are being accused of generalizing and hate…Like what con-artists do when they approach on the street…Same thing…
I know not all harassers are Black, and I’ve had harassers of different races, but I feel that with my Black harassers they try to hit me where it hurts. Non-Black harassers are more generic in their catcalls/insults towards me (it’s a “hey, baby” which turns into “bitch” if I dismiss them), but Black harassers have tried to hit me where it hurts—trying to attack me more personally. When they’re “complimenting” me (I hate calling it that, because it’s far from a compliment) it’s a comment about my locs or my light skin. But when it gets ugly, I get told things such as “Cut off yo’ dreads!” and “Stuck up light-skinned bitch!”
I do think there is a problem with intraracial harassment from Black men towards Black women and it needs to be addressed. A lot of the HollaBack sites have a rule against bringing up race as a factor of harassment, but once again, I feel it needs to be addressed. There is some form of race/class/gender harassment going on with this.
I used to have a street harassment blog for DC (but too much stress and drama caused me to stop working on it) and have blogged about harassment from Black men:
Does race play a factor in street harassment? (and here’s an update to that one)
Intraracial Tension
And this was one that was submitted by an intern that spent a summer in DC:
Don’t these clowns ever stop to take a breath?
I no longer work on the site, so no more comments and submissions are being accepted. However, I’m keeping that online because I want people to realize that street harassment (specifically from Black men to Black women) is a problem.
And about forced teaming: I notice a lot of guys do that, trying to make us feel guilty for talking about our feelings towards street harassment. They try to downplay everything. I don’t think this specifically is a Black thing, I notice this with street harassment as a whole. Men will never realize what it feels like to feel afraid to leave their house, fearful that someone bigger than them will try to hurt them. Since they don’t get it they should empathize, but they end up judging instead.
Lor-Marie,
Your point is well-taken and I do understand completely. I dont know why the words “brothas” and “sistas” flow out of my mouth so freely is bc of my parents and their 70’s Pro-Black mentality…lol. I do know for a fact that my family is predominantly female and my best friend in the world is a sista. Fact is, I own my life to black women My best friend in the world is a sista so when I see a black woman on the street looking beautiful, doing good for herself, and on the move, I smile bc it reminds me of my own sistas and friend. Cant help it.
Case in point, true story: I saw a beautiful sista at the bus point and I just love her stance and poise and I hate I didnt commented to her that. Well lo and behold, a few days later while waiting on the bus, guess who rides up to the buspoint on a vintage Schwinn but the same sista! I didnt hesistate and told her I think she is beautiful and what struck me the most was how surprised she was to hear that from a black male. We struck up a hour long conversation just talking about literature and life in general. Awesome moment. But watching this video hurts bc i know what my sistas go through on a daily basis.
@CW and Jenny-Seriously my apologies for commenting on the post. I certainly was not trying to make anyone feel guilty at all for talking about your feelings towards street harassment. This is a wonderful blog and a great forum for black women and for an enlightened brotha to check out a time or two.
Blessings to you all
Umoja
True story (one of three incidents that I have experienced violence from a Black male stranger), happened 09-27-08, 9 pm. I am a Black woman walking to my friend’s house on a Saturday night, suburban city. The keypad to buzz me in is not working. So I call her on the cell phone. She is coming downstairs to let me in. By the time she gets off the elevator, a youngish Black male comes up to me and says “gimme your bag”. I said “NOoooo”, b/c it was a birthday gift from my daughter, a Kate Spade leather bag. He points a gun to my chest and I freeze! He takes my purse with my whole life in it (pictures of loved ones who have passed away, my social security card, my daughter’s social security card, my bank cards, my cell phone-he actually answered it when my daughter called!), and WALKS away! He didn’t run, he walked away with my purse! The police looked for him and the one Black police officer did NOT give a damn! It was the 4 White police officers that tried to calm me down and went out looking! Swear to God! My friend and her neighbors witnessed this! The next day I went to my bank to find that he (and probably others) had used my bank card three times that night, and subsequently the next few days. Now I am struggling with identity theft. By the way, I am dating White guys and I always feel like I have died and gone to heaven or I am just Queen for the day. I have had it with Black guys. They show no respect and quite a bit of unbridled hostility towards Black women. I have been beaten, lied to, left to raise a child alone, stolen from, attempted rape at 16 years old by a stranger and more. There is nothing that can make me EVER trust a Black male, EVER again. Now, when a Black male walks up close to me, I immediately get defensive because I fear being physically hurt or my life threatened once again! Enough! I know all Black males are not like this, but too much has happened to me, all at the hands of Black males who are supposed to help and protect us. Now, I am not mean to Black males who are civil and decent to me. I speak and smile when they show appropriate behaviour towards me, but I cannot see myself dating any Black men, nor God forbid marrying another one, after my abusive marriage! I am mentally, emotionally and spiritually scarred due to the pain and humiliations I have suffered at the hands of too many damaged Black males. I have made a conscience decision to date out and hopefully marry out, as the White men are and have always liked me! I feel no guilt whatsoever! I have 4 Black brothers and I love them dearly, but not one of them has treated a woman well! And these misogynist videos do not teach young Black boys and Latino boys and men and White boys and men to respect Black women! Think about it! Hurting half your own race or group of people, cannot help Black people at all! We will never recover from the sin of hurting our own, once again!
I appreciated this video. For a long time I would be sure to walk on the opposite side of streets or the mall when I would see a group of black guys. I agree with those who have said its not just black men that do this to women, but a lot of the time, they are the ones… More so than any other race. So I think its easy to assume after awhile that every group of black men you encounter is going to “holla” at you. Wither its on the street, in the mall or even in their cars! It becomes annoying and you get tired of being disrespected. After awhile you just clump them all together. Which shouldn’t be the case but when 70% of the black men you see harass you, its hard to remember the other 30%:)
black people will be on the verge of extinct if we keep doing this to each other.
I was searching for other sites where this video is linked so I could find other places to discuss it, and I came across Black Planet in my search. I am completely disgusted with the reactions to this video over there. There are a lot of guys (even women) who are blaming the women for that treatment. They are telling women who are harassment recipients to 1) stop dressing provocatively (half of these women are dressed in normal, everyday clothes, nothing sexual) 2) stay off the streets (once again, these women are trying to go from point A to point B, not hang out on the streets all day), 3) to move (what if you have no choice?) and 4) telling them they want the attention. I was completely disgusted and had to close the window to that site. There are a lot of clueless and miseducated Negroes over there. That’s the reason why harassment still exists, because of that “blame the victim” mentality.
Great Video.
DBR black men teach other race of men to disrespect us and actually DBR black men, even the colloege-educated DBR ones openly tell every non-black person they meet that they ‘don’t date black women because fill in the blank, and that ‘black women are the problem’ or that ‘black women have too many isses’.
I have heard white and Asian guys come up to me and say ‘I don’t know what you black women do to black guys, but I know black guys who have said to me that black women are FILL IN THE NEGATIVE BLANK’
It’s like I don’t know what to trust coming out of a black man’s mouth when they themselves tell you ‘Oh white men just talk about having sex with black women, because I’m always hearing them say that’. Are they uplifting OR profile though and showing black women the proper respect?
Nope. You don’t have to date me, like me, love me, marry me, or make your black children darker skinned with me as opposed to lighter skinned, you just have to respect me in public.
That’s how you build up trust with me, that’s how you’ll get me to say ‘Hi’ to you sometimes instead of ignoring you no matter how polite you’re being.Then maybe you’ll get a smile out of me.
God nothing annoys me more than people always telling me to smile. Usually black people most them the black men.
I ain’t smiley and the street harassment from my own kind sure ain’t gonna make me smile more. Black men have me scared walking down the street, and when you try and say Hi to them and give them an inch, the balck men like NO other will take 300 miles.
Not even the one mile.
Hey I’m talking about my own ’supposed’ kind so I never wanted to say anything like this. Why would I? But I have to say the truth.
Black men are sexist especially up against black women, their ‘own kind’. They have no regard, consideration, and they just plain don’t care. They don’t CARE to understand how it’s not safe for strange women to just carry on with any and I mean any strange man she happens to bump into on the street, especially big cities.
I have the right to ignore ANY strange man I don’t know because that makes ME safer.
Don’t try to catch up with me and trail me like a shadow and say ‘If I walk with you and you walk with me, we’ll be safer and we’ll back up each other’.
You wouldn’t be doing that sh** to a white chick. That cannot make ME feel safer because you are a STRANGER.
And these black men need to stop taking that ‘black woman ignoring them on the street’ stuff personal YES I mean even when they are polite.
I mean hello? Where have you been? The world is NOT safe for women sometimes and I can’t be standing talking to Tom, Dick, Harry, Jorge, Jesus, Jose, Jerome, Daquan, Darnell, Shaquille, Seneca, Curtis, etc.
I mean am I painting you enough of a picture here?
Jeez Louise!
Connie make no excuses about yourself to ANYONE about your dating and marrying choices. Because NOBODY will ever do that for ‘your benefit’.
They can’t expect negative experiences against black women to be stifled and buried under the rug FOREVER like black women stupidly did to themselves back in the silly Gangsta Rap 1990s, only using their voice for black men and not for themselves.
These are the 00s and the very end of the 00s decade at that! It’s time to wake up from Mammy-ing, and tell the sleeping black women to SET THEIR ALARM CLOCK!
Oh yeah an as for Mr Common as Muck’s comments.
A black man who acts with a modicum of respect does NOT have to get all defensive about black women ‘attacking every black man’ if he HIMSELF doesn’t disrespect black women or just stand by silently and let the DBR black men just do what they feel like.
Take your knee-jerk defensiveness to your local Aunt Jemima. There are no pancakes and syrup for you here!
Can anyone stand up for our young Black Girls?
All Diva Media did an interview with Tracey Rose:
Black Woman Walking Interview with Tracey Rose
This video I found on YouTube seems to be the new Black Woman Walking:
BACK UP! concrete diaries
I am glad more women are speaking up about their street harassment experiences. If more speak out about it, people will start to take it more seriously.
Another Black woman speaks out about her experiences with intra-racial street harassment:
http://celiesrevenge.blogspot.com/2009/05/checking-sisters-attitude-sexual.html
Here’s a piece the admin at Stop Street Harassment wrote about the harassment of Black women by Black men:
http://streetharassment.wordpress.com/2009/06/12/you-think-youre-better-than-me/
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