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Latest 07/08: Ms Esmin Green, who was left to die on a hospital floor. People from her family, church, etc came out of the woodwork only AFTER she died. IMO...True fashion of those who did not do right by her in the first place...Now these parties want to go on the news and prostrate themselves on Ms Green's coffin...Where were they while she was alive?...It was obvious she needed help...More than likely she was just another 'mule' fitting under the 'Strong Black Woman' profile...Sisters, we MUST reject being a burden bearer and only deal with those who reciprocate...
Daniyah Jackson
Nailah Franklin
Latasha Norman
The two mothers & babies gunned down in Indianapolis
Dunbar Village
Alexis Goggins
Stepha Henry
There are no marches, committees nor protests for these atrocities against Black women. When will we cease giving endless support to a false community which openly (with misogynist music), or with silence, endorse cruelty against us?
We cannot go on pretending the so called Black "leadership"
has our best interests at heart. The rare occasions "Black leadership" has shown their face for BW is where there is a possibility of playing the racecard. Black women must cease and desist any support of
these organizations and their figureheads...
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I wish all the black women luck. I am a woman too, sadly not black, but still a woman :-), and we all have to stick together for a better tomorrow for our daughters. By the way, do you think, that it is not good when is somebody dating with a person with other skin colour, if you discussed it?
That is a serious DVR alert! Thanks for the info CW. I have to give props to Tyra. She’s had harder hitting shows on issues affecting BW, more so than Oprah.
Yes Indeed!
IMO…Oprah was hinting and leading into something with the famous “70%” show….Hopefully we haven’t heard the last of it from her…
Susan…
What do you mean? Please elaborate…
I really feel this episode gave interracial relationships a bad name. I am all for the empowerment of black women, but I do not feel that the majority of people in mixed race relationships were looking for the other race . I feel like instead of going two steps foward in the struggle for racial understanding and equality, this show put us two steps back.
I am in an interracial relationship, and I can honestly say I was not searching for the race of my boyfriend, and he wasnt looking for someone of a different race either, it happens..Love doesn’t have a color.
I am sure these strong black women could find great men, you just need to open up your mind and heart to different things sometimes just like my boyfriend and I did.
Thats great for u Maria. However, black and hispanic men do look for white women its like an trophy wife for these men. Unfortunately, for black women anything to a black man is an trophy wife except black women. In addition, white men aren’t that found of black women. So, living in an White American society being an black woman where one is seen as an video hoe instead of an individual makes it hard to find an companion. So, men in America “need to open their mind and heart to different things just like your boyfriend and u did.” It may be hard for u to comprehend because its not your everyday life and you’re an individual. But its the truth, and if you’re offended then welcome to the life of an black woman!
Black men who do not like black women sound ridiculous because its an double standard, especially if there mother is black. Being that most black kids grow up with out an father figure and are raised by their mothers, but don’t like black women. Hell u shouldn’t like your damn self! Its an insult to your entire family and not only that when these men have young girls with these women they have to go through what every other black woman has to go through. And what are they going to tell their daughters, “You’re genetically predisposed with an bad attitude and not as attractive therefore u may inquire difficulties marrying especially within your own race.” Doesn’t seem like these men have thought through their dislikes for their family and future kids!
I agree I am biracial however I rarely acknowledge the fact that I am half white because I am treated like any other black woman and I do have a problem with my father and his belief about black women since I am one because of him. My mother might be white but I am an strong black woman and the fact that black men and white women talk low of black women then produce black babies and don’t realize the hell that we go through. Mixed kids are legally black and not considered white just like during slavery so for those interracial couples I hope you’re prepared to raise strong black women!
Unfortunately I watched about 10-15 mins of the show-something that I said I wouldn’t do. I hated it. Couldn’t they have picked bw who don’t give a damn about who bm date? Where were the women that DO date quality non-bm. I’m telling you…this “We hate ww because they are dating “our” men is getting tired. With the small exception of high profile celebrities, I have yet to see a bm with a ww who is of HIGH QUALITY.
If Tyra wants to talk about the state of bw, where are the sistas who have embraced their natural hair? Where are the stories about the second revolution of “nappy” hair wearers? Where are the stories about the new explosion of wm/bw relationships?
It seems that Tyra is the new “Oprah” in showing POSITIVE images *sarcastically* about bm and bw. How many times can one woman complain about the “industry” and its obsession with weave- all the while walking around looking like Blackpunzel. We know she’s from Long Beach but damn why does she promote every stereotype in book?
Tyra you get the first “Girl sit down and really STFU because you have no real substance” black media award LOL.
I thought they should have had a BW/WM couple on the show like they had that BM/WW couple. The stupidity of these BM on these talk shows when the topic is about Interracial dating never ceases to amaze me. Referencing only BW can get pregnant to trap a man? Are kidding me, so it’s damn near impossible that a WW can’t and won’t do such a thing. Only BW like bad boys? There’s no such thing as WW liking bad boys. They only go after nice guys or nerds. BM make themselves look and sound so ignorant when they speak about BW.
glad it didnt watch it!
The show was petty lackluster. She should have broken it up into a multipart series.
That show sucks. It’s VERY stereotypical towards black women. This episode is making black women look really bad. Because of the stereotypes, I have a hard time in the dating game. It’s like society still view black women as promiscuous to the point where everytime a non-black man comes to me, he automatically thinks sexual thoughts, and it’s not fair. Why can’t they think of me as a individual? Why can’t they think of me as a regular woman? It’s these stereotypes in the media that ruining every black woman’s chance to meet somebody to marry one day. We are also viewed as unattractive in the media because the majority of us don’t resemble white women, and because we don’t resemble them, we are at the bottom of the totem pole when it comes to dating and marriage. That’s not fair. This destructive beauty standard is the reason why black women like myself, suffers from VERY VERY low self esteem. I wasn’t told that I was beautiful growing up. I have milk chocolate skin, kinky hair, and African features, and I wasn’t treated very well by my family. It seems like non-black men give me more attention than my own men, but I have to be careful because some of these non-black men don’t look at black women as friends type. Some of them look at us as someone to screw, but not to marry. We as black women ae seen as sluts ans whores even though we are educated, even though we go to church, even though we were raised right. We need black women like you, CW, to uplift us more and to teach us that we don’t have to be what society expect us to be. We are just as beautiful as non-black women, and as soon as we realize that, we can all be free from mental bondage that society put us in. Black women need to think for ourselves and stand up for ourselves because the way I see it, nobody is going to do it for us, not even our own men.
Whew too much negativity here! I’ll see you in the next blog entry CW…………
First of all…I want to thank everyone for stopping by. I have yet to catch this show on the rebound, but it sounds like Tyra did not get to the ‘heart’ of the matter. Black women need to stop relying on Black men for their happiness and open their options to all men. And I tend to smile and nod at the non-Black women who try to advise BW just to “open up our hearts and minds”. We have been doing just that since the beginning. Often at our expense and downfall. What many non-Black women do not realize is that they are being shown only the ‘best parts’ after the BM is done editing himself, and ONLY what he TELLS THEM about BW. In addition, if no further research is done, they will not have an accurate picture of BW. I hope Tyra will do a show that will moreso focus on BW exploring what is best for them. I may get some clips up here soon!
Yep CW
One day bw including Tyra banks will get tired of positioning themselves as the most pitiable of women and inviting others to a sympathy party!
it never ceases to amaze me how bw feel that if they just let others know how their actions hurt them, that these ones will be moved to stop. i actually am convinced these folks will even be motivated to twist the screw even further lol!
NEWS FLASH
the BM that you think you need to inform how their actions are deriding bw already KNOW that they are deriding bw with their actions and pronouncements, thats the whole point!
Now bw need to go and located themselves a clue as they seem to be the only ones who dont know what’s up!
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it never ceases to amaze me how bw feel that if they just let others know how their actions hurt them, that these ones will be moved to stop.
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ahhh…but here is where you are wrong…Usually we get the EXACT opposite - the stereotypical strong black woman.
If anything, BW need to let others know they do indeed have feelings. We need to be HUMANIZED. We are not these strong, indestructible objects made out of genuine cowhide. Every time I witness this defensive posturing from BW, there’s usually a lot of pain behind it. I don’t think these women are fooling anyone.
The reason I like Tyra, is because she wears her heart on her sleeve. When BW present themselves like machines, it’s easy for others to disregard our feelings.
Essentially when we do that Halima, we are creating the opposite effect of what we really desire.
Actually Halima and Black Woman Unhinged are both right….Lemme Explain:
No one who has any deductive reasoning will expect Black women to maintain a “robotic” stance….IMO many Black women are guilty of reflecting this image onto themselves for protective purposes…I was guilty of this myself at one point…However when we let people know that their actions are hurtful, the Black woman must be prepared to ACT on that….We must match our actions with that hurt….Let people know certain behaviors are unacceptable by walking away, choosing and/or responding differently….
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Im tired of hearing that garbage about men being intimidated by “successful” black women. I have dated thoses types of women and have found that some of them are all show and no real personality. They are caught up in apperences and not being true to themselves not to say they need to act a certain way. Its as if they worry more about how others view them, thats a real turn off to me because they treat everything like its temporary or they try to run your life. I would love to have one but I want one that don’t always act like they don’t need a man because they got a nice house or car I want one that has the capability to love someone based on reality and not materialistic things or appearances.
I”m taking the time out to respond to Cielo because your statement is really so full of holes. It seems you are looking through those glasses that have been shattered into many pieces. It’s all a matter of how you are perceiving the issue. I never watch Tyra show but last night I did since I was at work all night. I found it very interesting and of course the women in the audience there to reinforce this idea that all brothers are out there dating white women. The same sisters in that audience for me was a representation of the sisters I see at work who are college educated but because I am only a security guard I don’t register on their radar. I am purposely looking for a sister right now and in that list doesn’t include hood rats. My search like many brothers are limited. Our prospective future isn’t looked at but what do we bring in value at that very moment. In my case you sisters don’t take me notice, I’m vertically challenged not built like a football player, single father, non-christian, and I love house music(not to many of our people listen to house anymore). So you tell me where that sister is for me when majority of sisters are looking for a godfearing man as they claim or looking for that hood brothers. I have been told I’m not ghetto enough by the way. For the record my son’s mother is a black woman and a angry one at that.
i hope one day people deal with the topic of black women like me, who were raised in monoparental households by women, who have had little input into their lives by black men, the very men who are supposed to cherish them, who have seen generations of women struggle with their men and have yet to find respect or acceptance among their own men, but are expected to love him unconditionally, who do not want to give up on all black men or paint them with the same brush despite it all, these are my thoughts and reality, anyone else out there
@Johnson - Considering you are a security guard, what makes you any better than the “hood rat” you abhor? Why is it that you feel that you are too good for the “hood rat”, when you are a “hood rat” yourself? Why is it that you feel that women who value education or white collar employment, and have achieved in those areas, should be available to a man who obviously does not? You are entitled to have standards, but I think you are a bit delusional on what type of woman is going to consider you. Furthermore, what is wrong with the girl cashier at target, or the bus driver, or the receptionist, or the waitress? Why is it that you feel you are entitled to a woman who has already achieved what you claim you have the potential for, rather than a woman who has the potential, but has not achieved it yet, like yourself. You are a man, but you want to be given the benefit of the doubt that is usually afforded to women, not the other way around. In addition, you don’t want to afford women that same benefit of the doubt, that is usually expected of men.
Why are the same old stats being thrown around like black women are in this dire state of affairs? Why do you think that most black men do not want you? That is not true. That is what the media want you to think. More black men are dating and marrying black women. Its a fact that the white people do not want us to dwell on. Wake up. It isnt that bad.