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A Message To Black Women:
This is a time where enough is enough and we must act. Despite our differences in opinion on dating and messageboard posts, there is a situation staring Black women dead in the face. Love me, hate me, cuss me out and call me names...Just demand better for Black women. Add me to your blogroll, remove me, or ban me...Just stand up for Black women. The crimes committed against us are often glossed over in favor of fighting perceived injustices against Black men who are overwhelmingly found to be the perpetrators. Rev. Al & Jesse (AKA "Big Perm" & "Big Illegitimate Daddy")would rather march for the BM of "Jena 6", or cry about how a BM teen received too much prison time (Google Geranalow Wilson) for indecent acts. These phony sychophants of the "Black Community Machine" will never stand up for Black women who are the constant victims of damaged Black men. Consider the numerous BW who have become victims that we can name off the top of our heads. And believe me this list isn't all inclusive...All within less than a year:
Latest 07/08: Ms Esmin Green, who was left to die on a hospital floor. People from her family, church, etc came out of the woodwork only AFTER she died. IMO...True fashion of those who did not do right by her in the first place...Now these parties want to go on the news and prostrate themselves on Ms Green's coffin...Where were they while she was alive?...It was obvious she needed help...More than likely she was just another 'mule' fitting under the 'Strong Black Woman' profile...Sisters, we MUST reject being a burden bearer and only deal with those who reciprocate...
Daniyah Jackson
Nailah Franklin
Latasha Norman
The two mothers & babies gunned down in Indianapolis
Dunbar Village
Alexis Goggins
Stepha Henry
There are no marches, committees nor protests for these atrocities against Black women. When will we cease giving endless support to a false community which openly (with misogynist music), or with silence, endorse cruelty against us?
We cannot go on pretending the so called Black "leadership"
has our best interests at heart. The rare occasions "Black leadership" has shown their face for BW is where there is a possibility of playing the racecard. Black women must cease and desist any support of
these organizations and their figureheads...
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This post is being sent to all of the BW female IR blog sites because I just wanted to challenge all of you. First of all I think you are all awesome! You have changed the lives of many BW. Focusing on my own agenda instead of worrying about the BC is now my main focus . Self preservation is essential for BW right now. You should be immensely proud of yourselves, although I know that you guys are doing this for unselfish reasons. You are doing this because of your love and concern for BW. Uplifting of BW is your purpose. Knowing that BW are working so hard to make sure life is better for other BW does my heart good. I mean that literally…lol. Now having said that, I just wanted to discuss a matter of concern.
Recently, after reading over these blogs, I have been feeling a little drained. Why? (don’t refer to me as mammy because I am totally down with our cause) you guys concentrate too much on BM. I want to recommend these blogs to BW who I meet out in the street, at work, everywhere but there is so much BM bashing. I want to see more BW dating out and I do have some issues with BM but I don’t hate BM. I agree that BM have become arrogant because of our situation, they play BW, only care about their own agenda, don’t protect BW, allow WW to dis us out in public and are colorstruck. The numbers of single women, single mothers coupled with the fact that the wealthiest BM marry WW bother me to no end.
However, we need to not concentrate so much on what BM are doing wrong in the BC. We just need to concentrate on elevating BW and attracting quality men. I was reading a blog that discussed the fact there are two types of BW in the Something New/Dating IR movement. The BW who hate BM & worship WM and the BW who are grieving the loss of a dream. I read these comments on all of these blogs and it is not hard to distinguish between the two types. WM are not perfect. My experiences with WM have been a lot better overall. Nevertheless, there are still WM out there who are “wolves in sheeps clothing” as well as good WM. Look, I understand all that you are feeling because I am living it. I just think that the movement will do so much better if we don’t concentrate so much on what the “horrible BM” is doing all the time. Dating BM is no longer a desire of mine. Why don’t we just date our NBM and not give the BM a second thought? My challenge to you is to continue doing the wonderful job all of you are doing to uplift BW and bash BM less.
You’re absolutely right anonymous…My take is that sometimes people need waking up….I fully intend to move onto another phase of this commitment shortly….Right now I am dating all races and enjoying every minute of it…I was telling another blogger …It’s like night and day…Please come back and join the discussion anytime….I value your input…
My interest in dating men of other races has nothing to do with black men. I don’t necessarily think that the issue you’ve pointed out in purely BW-nonBM sites comes from a hateful place. My guess after reading a few is that some are just fed up with feeling like they must justify it to every person, black or white, that they come across. I’ve NEVER felt a need to justify any of my relationships and there’s not a bit of anger towards black men or black people. People generally look a little longer than they should and sometimes stare but from my experience, black people feel more comfortable with making a comment to you directly or voicing their opinion of you due to your relationship. i want all people in IR relationships to try my technique: pay it no mind and live your life. if you feel like it, you can come back with a witty remark. poof! all that anger towards whoever it is disappears.
i truly believe that’s the source of what you noted. i’ve seen it repeatedly and my responses to those declarations were ridiculed a time or two. if a person truly has that amount of hatred or anger in their hearts, there’s no room for a relationship with anyone until they sort themselves out.
i don’t really view this site as an IRR site. there’s a lot of social commentary and i don’t really see any hatred in it at all. it’s more pro-BW in my view and men seem to confuse that with anti-BM. i love my brother. i love my grandpa. i love my nephews. i love my male cousins. they are wonderful, strong, intelligent BM. most of them had the advantage of being raised with great male role models, people who loved them, mothers-sisters-aunties-nanas who taught them how to treat a woman and people who push and encourage them. not all men are so fortunate.
I agree with you Gorgeous Black Woman about CW’s blog/site. I also DO NOT see it as hateful either. No, it’s quite the opposite in my opinion. I see it as pro-black women too. Her message can be tough for some people to deal with I suppose depending on how you take it. When I think of CW’s blog….hateful just doesn’t come to mind.
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